Cliches become cliche for a reason. Though overused and easy to dismiss, there is still an underlying truth that is common across context and experience. Phrases such as: time heals all wounds; you can't judge a book by its cover; or you learn something new every day, come to mind. With nearly four decades under my belt, I'd like to think I've learned a thing or two; maybe even 13,892! I've experienced deep loss thatstill breaks my heart, but I can't deny the soothing touch of time. And judgement... you never, never know what is going on in someone's life and it's always, always not what you think and this is enough of a reason to always be kind. Life does not hand out a cost benefit analysis to accompany each difficult situation it presents. We all do the best we can to navigate with logic and instinct and then trust that we chose wisely or we learn from our mistakes.
Experiencing cold feet is no different. Fear and doubt can creep in and make us lose our nerve for far less consequential actions. Shoot, I get cold feet before heading out for a trail run even though there's no doubt in my mind that I want to go! Sometimes it's out of fear, other times inertia. Regardless, there's no doubt that going is always the best decision. In fact, it's an act of faith every time we step out the door and say hello to the world. We're smart enough to know that life offers us no guarantees, but we go out and live it anyway. We do this because it's the only way to learn and grow; to evolve into better people. It's how we find love, experience joy and laugh so hard we cry. We do this because it is the only way to live. I also believe that it is the only way to love.
Entering into marriage is a calculated leap of faith. It is an act of trust in yourself and in another to protect and nurture the precious entity that is your relationship. It is having faith that you will grow together and that you have and will develop the skills and strength to move past adversity. It is trusting that you will treat love as a verb and not simply as a reward. If and when the proverbial cold feet creep in; stop, close your eyes and inhale deeply. Visualize the faith and trust washing over you like a warm, golden light from above. When you're ready, open your eyes, smile, grab the hand of the one you love and boldly go live, love and laugh!